Marriage is a comprehensive, permanent, and exclusive union between one man and one woman.

Marriage is a comprehensive union of persons, a union of hearts, minds, and bodies. In marriage, spouses achieve true organic bodily union, a union only possible between man and woman.

Because marriage unites husband and wife at all the basic levels of their person in a uniquely comprehensive way (heart, mind and body), it is different in kind and not just in degree from all other types of human relationship. The comprehensive structure of marriage demands a total commitment from the spouses, that they be faithful to each other in an exclusive and permanent bond.

Marriage is beautiful and good in and of itself. However, marriage is also tremendously important for society because organic bodily union often produces children.

Marriage allows mothers and fathers to give their children the promise of a stable and lifelong family bond, which children most need to flourish.

Cheering for faithful marriages requires that we acknowledge the real challenges that exist to a strong union. Let’s be frank: all marriages struggle in some way! Some of us have to work at being emotionally faithful, others at being sexually faithful.

Some grapple with workaholism or alcoholism, with financial stress or cultural or religious differences; others have to face substance addictions, or other mental or physical illnesses.

All couples face challenges—often for many years—but these hardships are not a reason to abandon our marriages or the ideal of permanence. Rather, by working through obstacles together, lovers have the opportunity to move towards greater self-giving, a more beautiful way of love.

When they show this unconditional love for each other, they model that sacrificial love for their children.

This creates mature, confident children who can turn around and show that respect and compassion towards others in society, generating a positive ripple effect.

Every child has a right to a mother and a father; no one has a right to a child.

Mothers and fathers provide unique gifts to their children. Each sex contributes in astonishing ways towards the healthy psychosocial development of a child.

Therefore, the ideal family structure for children is the intact, married, biological mother and father family. We know this ideal is not always attainable, but we cheer for those who strive to meet it.

We take a firm stand against same-sex civil marriage, which, despite good intentions, enshrines in law the idea that children don’t need both a mother and a father, an idea that sends the wrong message to society and entails negative outcomes for children.

We also cheer for the following children’s rights:

1. The right to life from conception until natural death, regardless of the circumstances of conception, sex, or family situation.

2. The right to be treated as a person, not as a commodity to be bought or sold. Sometimes adults long so deeply for a child that they come to believe they are owed a child. However, children are a blessing and a privilege, not something owed to us adults. As adults, we must be careful not to seek fulfillment through a child, but rather adjust our desires to meet the objective needs of children. This allows us to treat children as unique individuals, not as instruments of our own dreams or pursuits, to be bought or (have their genetic material) sold according to our purposes.

3. The right to modesty, to not be the subject of sexual abuse, sexual images, offensive sexual teachings or objects. We adults can and must be the first responders and protectors of the sexual integrity of children, who—not having yet undergone sexual development or maturity—are harmed in myriad physical and psychological ways by the sexual advances of adults or peers.

4. The right to be raised according to one’s biological sex and gender. Boys and girls must be taught to celebrate the unique and fundamental gifts of their biological sex. Gender is something anchored by our biological sex, not something infinitely plastic that can be changed. If there is a disconnect between mind and body, the child needs special support, patience, and love to help him or her better understand and accept the wonder of his or her sex.

Family kinship bonds between children, parents, grandparents, and extended family should be protected and preserved.

Kinship regards the biological ties we have to the ancestral line that led to our existence. Kinship ties provide anchor to our identity by helping us to understand where we came from.

It matters very much how children enter this world and experience their ancestry, and we cheer for all those who recognize and protect bio-kinship bonds.

Sometimes a child loses one or more parents due to tragic circumstances. We admire adoptive and foster parents who seek to remedy broken kinship bonds and open their homes to these children with generosity and care, hoping to give the child a second chance at a loving family experience without deliberately seeking to erase or dismiss the child’s biological history.

Other forms of parenting are associated with direct assaults on kinship. Third party reproduction, which uses a third parent’s eggs, womb or semen to create a child, involves the explicit intention and act of alienating a child from a biological parent, often making it difficult or impossible for the child to know and be known by them.

Frequently this leads to genealogical bewilderment and other psychological challenges for the child.

We cheer for those who strive to preserve and honor kinship bonds between children, biological parents and extended family, knowing how important these bonds are to all humanity, but especially to the world’s children.

Every person has a profound need to be appreciated, known, and loved in the context of authentic friendship.

Authentic friendship is a relationship of mutual appreciation, in which people desire each each other’s good and value each other’s uniqueness. Friendships are born around common pursuits and loves, but they reach their highest expression when friends desire each other’s true good as a part of their own good and happiness.

Because it does not have organic bodily union as one of its aims, authentic friendship is characterized by philia love rather than romantic or sexual love. Authentic friendship is real, valuable and intimate—a union of hearts and minds, which gives profound happiness. Every one of us needs this experience of friendship to fend off loneliness and flourish.

Recognizing that marriage is a distinct type of comprehensive union with its own unique form of friendship doesn’t denigrate true friendship outside of marriage, but instead provides the space and context that these friendships need to flourish.

By rejecting the redefinition of marriage as just one’s most intense emotional union, we affirm that non-marital friendships have their own distinctive features and types of intimacy, and we counter the confusing modern meme that all emotional intimacy can or should be sexual.

We realize that authentic friendship is easier said than done! We live in an age where technology, the frenetic pace of life, and a kind of relationship illiteracy make it challenging to cultivate true friendship.

We cheer for those who seek authentic friendship, resist sexualizing their friendships, including same-sex and lgbt friendships, and seek sexual integrity as their path for joy. We applaud all those on the dating and singles scene who wait for marriage to express their total, comprehensive commitment of heart, mind and body.

Again, we realize that this is a hard challenge today. But coming together to share support, solidarity and encouragement will help us grow in authentic friendship.

Every person possesses a unique dignity and is worthy of respect, regardless of sex, age, ethnicity, sexual feelings, race, educational level or religious or political ideas.

Too often, contemporary debates in the public sphere lead to the dehumanizing of people who hold different opinions or pose inconveniences. Some argue that fetuses are not people. Others assert that people of faith are unworthy of respect, or that persons with same-sex attraction are less dignified, or that those who have experimented in a promiscuous lifestyle lack dignity, or that minority groups are a threat

CanaVox cheers for those who seek to engage in civil and meaningful conversations that preserve the dignity of all involved, even in the midst of intense disagreements, and we strive to add our own positive voice to the public sphere.

We especially reach out to those who have suffered from our broken sex culture and we support them as they seek a second chance at sexual integrity. Sexual integrity is about using our sexual capacities well. It allows us to be in control of our sexual desires rather than to be controlled by them. It allows us to choose the right time, place, and person to give ourselves completely to (in marriage!) and to then remain faithful to that one person.

We value the dignity of all the vulnerable among us: the unborn, children, the elderly, religious and sexual minorities, and the poor. The only authentic protection of any people in a given society is the protection of all.

Parents have the right and responsibility to direct and guide the education of their children.

Parents have a right and a responsibility to direct the education of their children. Government, and social institutions more broadly should assist parents in their educational task and never usurp parents’ primary role, especially in sensitive areas pertaining to sexuality, marriage and family.

Unfortunately, schools, educators and the government sometimes forget that they exist to assist parents and not to replace or exclude them. Parents today face governments, caregivers and providers that may seek, through various means—but especially through sex-ed programs—to normalize and promote forms of sexual behavior that violate the consciences of many around the world.

Barring clear and extreme cases of child-abuse, governments must give parents and families the benefit of the doubt when it comes to the care and education of their children. Yes it takes a village, but first it takes a strong marriage and a strong family to raise a child well. We support parents in this irreplaceable role, and we recognize that the moral and economic health of villages, nations, and society rests on the all-important work of mothering and fathering.

Every person has a right to freedom of conscience, thought, and religion, which includes the freedom to manifest one’s religion or beliefs in a public or private way so long as these beliefs and practices do not harm others.

We cheer for the people who understand the positive role of religion in ordinary life and the importance of faith to the common good, whatever their professed creed.

Religious liberty is under attack over questions pertaining to life, marriage and parental education, among other issues. We work to help inform our audiences about threats to religious liberty in law and culture today. We also highlight the meaningful ways in which citizens live their faith and moral traditions beyond the weekly worship context, so as to raise awareness that freedom of religion is more than just freedom to worship.

We believe that a fundamental feature of human existence is the search for truth. This inevitably involves a degree of error, but persons must enjoy the freedom to be mistaken in the cultivation of their own consciences, so long as their beliefs do not cause palpable harm to others.

In a nutshell:

Our seven cheer points relate to seven different relationships, all of which flow from and shape our marriage culture.

  1. the relationship between husband and wife
  2. the relationship between children and adults
  3. the relationship between children and their biological family
  4. the relationship between adults of the same sex
  5. the relationship between all persons in civil society
  6. the relationship between the government, parents and children
  7. the relationship between the government and people of faith

We seek healing and right order in these relationships, mindful that a strong marriage culture depends upon all of these relationships working together to support the union of husband and wife, together for life. As a movement, we can do this!

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