We’ve carefully curated this list of readings and videos to encourage great discussions in your reading group—pulling together up-to-date academic research and inspiring stories from the front lines of real life. If you have any trouble accessing any essays or videos, please let us know.
Kickoff Meeting
The Basics
CanaVox, Who We Are (5:30 video)
CanaVox, “What We Cheer For” (print-friendly version)
CanaVox, “For CanaVox Reading Group Participants” (print-friendly version)
Session 1
On the Meaning of Marriage
Ryan Anderson, “Men, Women, and Children: The Truth About Marriage” (Ch. 1 of Truth Overruled. This reading may be found behind the leader login. Leaders, please download and email this reading as an attachment to your reading group.)
Alliance Defending Freedom, Katy Faust’s Story (7-min video)
CanaVox, “Handout on the Meaning of Marriage” (3-page summary) (This reading may be found behind the leader login. Leaders, please download and email this reading as an attachment to your reading group.)
Marriage Equals.org, Making Sense of Marriage (9-min video)
Optional:
Ryan Anderson for Focus, What is Marriage? (21-min video)
Session 2
Friendship and Marriage
Angela McKay Knobel, “Aristotle, True Friendship, and the ‘Soulmate’ View of Marriage”
New York Times, A Marriage to Remember Story about Alzheimer’s in marriage (8-min video)
Pick One:
Kate Lee, “I didn’t marry my soul mate.” Personal story of the joys of having married a good person–even when there were no fireworks in the beginning
Mandy Len Catron, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” How friendship arises from conversational intimacy and can give rise to love. (note: this is a web-archive link and takes longer to load)
Session 3
Same-Sex Attraction
Katy Faust and Ana Samuel, “Understanding Same-Sex Attraction” (This reading may be found behind the leader login.)
D.C. McAllister, “How to Stop Sexualizing Everything”
Reintegrative Therapy, Free to Love Movie (start at minute 2:48; 35 mins total)
Optional 2nd Session on Same-Sex Attraction:
CanaVox, “Expert Answers to the Hardest Questions about Same-Sex Attraction” (This reading may be found behind the leader login.)
Ron Belgau, “My Alternative Lifestyle”
Session 4
Loving Those with Same-Sex Attractions
NPR Staff, “Attracted To Men, Pastor Feels Called To Marriage With A Woman.”
Jordan Bunch, My Friendship with Brent Baily (8-min video)
Richard Evans, “Befriending Those With Same-Sex Attraction: One Celibate Man’s View”
Dear Katy, Loving Family Despite Lifestyle Differences (3-min video)
Dear Katy, Invited to a Same-Sex Wedding (3-min video)
Optional:
Katherine Adams, Voices of Hope Story from a woman with a gay brother and gay husband in the LDS community (video)
Blackstone Films, The Third Way: Homosexuality and the Catholic Church Personal stories of individuals with same-sex attraction who are Catholic (38-min video)
Session 5
Divorce Updated!
Humanum, A Hidden Sweetness: The Power of Marriage Amid Hardship (12-min video; choose English subtitles)
W. Bradford Wilcox, “The Evolution of Divorce”
Ryan at The Marriage Ecosystem, “Divorce Never Ends For Children.”
Katy Faust, “Happily Divorced vs. Unhappily Married – Which is Better for Kids?”
Dear Katy, Breaking the Divorce Cycle (3-min video)
Pick One:
Huffington Post/BuzzFeed, When My Parents Got Divorced (3-min video)
Pía Orellana G, “Back Together After a Breakup” A Chilean couple tells the story of why they divorced and then got back together again.
Session 6
The Hook-Up Culture
The Austin Institute, The Economics of Sex (10-min video)
Jennifer Joyner, “I thought Casual Sex Would be Empowering, but it was the Opposite.” Heads Up: Some of this material is sexually graphic.
John Prather, “Waiting for Sex: An Honest Look at the Price of Patience” (website archive, will take longer to load)
Dear Katy, Know Your Worth (3-min video)
Pick One:
D.C. McAllister, “Stop Pretending Sex Never Hurts”
Anonymous, “Pregnant at Harvard?”
The Atlantic, Why Dating is Hard for Millennials (4:28 min video)
CanaVox, Dating Roadmap for Women (This reading may be found behind the leader login.)
CanaVox, Dating Roadmap for Men (behind login)
CanaVox, Strategic Plan for Dating (behind login)
The Dating Project, Rules of the First Date (2 min read)
Optional:
CanaVox, Strategic Plan for Dating: Make Your Own! (Optional Activity: Use this blank template to plan your family’s dating roadmap.) (behind login)
Screening of The Dating Project (2:24 min trailer, 70 min full movie)
Session 8
Cohabitation Updated!
PrepMedia, Relationship DUI: Are you Sure You’re in Love? (4-min video)
Galena Rhoades, “How Moving In Together Makes It Harder To Know If He’s The One” (6-minute read)
Dan McLaughlin, “Study: Marry Young, Marry Your First, Stay Married” (2-minute read on the latest social science research.)
Theresa DiDonato, “Are Couples That Live Together Before Marriage More Likely to Divorce?” (3-minute read on the persistent “cohabitation effect.”)
W. Bradford Wilcox, “A Shaky Foundation for Families”
John Sedarati, “Jordan Peterson On Cohabitation Versus Marriage” (4-minute read on the main reason most couples cohabit.)
Optional:
Katrina Fernandez, “Cohabitation is a Smack in the Face.”
Alysse Elhage, “Why I Never Considered Living With My Husband Before Marriage”
Dear Katy, Sister’s Boyfriend Wants to Move In (3-min video)
Session 9
Marital Fidelity UPDATED!
Ana Samuel, “On Marital Fidelity: Its Personal and Public Benefits” NEW!
Esther Perel, Rethinking Infidelity: A Talk for Anyone Who Ever Loved (20-min TED talk)
C. S. Lewis, Excerpts from Mere Christianity, “On Marriage” (This reading may be found behind the leader login. Leaders, please download and email this reading as an attachment to your reading group.)
Judith, S, “Mexican Marriage Heroes” Story about fidelity in marriage amid bipolar depression
Session 10
Communication in Marriage
Eric Barker, “The 4 Most Common Relationship Problems — And How To Fix Them”
Matthew Fray, “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink.”
MissFranJanSan via Jason W. Stevens, “Woman Realizes that She’s Been Accidentally Abusing her Husband this Whole Time.”
Richard Paul Evans, “How I Saved My Marriage”
Optional:
Emily Esfahani Smith, “Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down to 2 Basic Traits.”
Resource for finding a marriage counselor: www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com
Session 11
The Importance of Fatherhood
Alyssa Elhage, “How Marriage Makes Men Better Fathers”
Brett and Kate McKay, “The Importance of Fathers”
Meg Meeker, “What Dads Can Learn from Julia Louis-Dreyfus’s Acceptance Speech”
WeKnowMemes, A Kid in the Air as the Father Sees It (Photo)
Dear Katy, Dad Hates My Boyfriend (3-min video)
Optional:
Jonathan Last, “A Dad’s Life”
Correctional Officer Calvin Williams, The Importance of Fathers (5-min video)
Session 12
The Beauty of Motherhood
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, “Just A Mom”
Rachel Bock, “Why I Left Feminism” (web-archive link)
Erica Komisar, “Just Be There: Why Moms Should Stay with Children in Their Early Years”
Cecilia Royals, “Educating Youth to Champion the Family”
Elizabeth Schlueter, “Motherhood: A Great Work”
Optional:
Ashley McGuire, “What Jordan Peterson Has to Say About Motherhood Might Surprise You”
Diana Spaulding, “Motherhood Is: Being Brave Even When You’re Terrified”
Session 13
Same-Sex Marriage
Humanum, Marriage, Culture and Civil Society (17-min video; choose English subtitles)
Ryan Anderson, “Marriage Matters, and Redefining It has Social Costs.”
Dear Katy, Invited to a Same-Sex Wedding (3-min video)
Pick One:
Katy Faust, “Dear Justice Kennedy: An Open Letter from the Child of a Loving Gay Parent”
Janna Darnelle, “Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me.” A woman’s husband comes out as gay and leaves her
Dr. Jacqueline C. Rivers, Marriage and the Black Family On the importance of one-man-one-woman marriage for the Black American community and its children (14-min video)
Session 14
Same-Sex Parenting
Humanum, The Cradle of Life and Love: A Mother and Father for the World’s Children The unique gifts of mothers and fathers (14-min video; choose English subtitles)
Bobby Lopez, “Growing Up with Two Moms: The Untold Children’s View”
Katy Faust and Stacy Manning, “Same-Sex Parents: What Say the Kids?” (Excerpts from Them Before Us).
Ana Samuel, “The Kid’s Aren’t All Right: New Family Structures and the ‘No Differences’ Claim”
Paul Sullins, “It’s Time to Promote Good Social Science on Same-Sex Parenting”
Further Resources:
The Witherspoon Institute, “Marriage and the Public Good (2022)” Excerpts. Gives a brief footnoted overview of current studies on same-sex parenting. (This reading is available behind the leader login.)
Session 15
Donor-Conceived Children
Alana Newman, “What are the Rights of Donor-Conceived People?”
California Cryobank, Kids of Donor 5114 (9-min video)
Natasha Pyper, “An Open Letter to a Father, from the Daughter You Left Behind”
Dear Katy, Sperm Bank Daddy (3-min video)
Optional:
Institute for American Values, “My Daddy’s Name is Donor: 15 conclusions from the Social Sciences” Pp. 7-14.
Anonymous Us Personal testimonies of donor-conceived kids
Session 16
Sex Ed in the Family
CanaVox Moms, “Tips for Talking to Your Child about Sex: The Elementary School Years; The Middle School Years and The High School Years.” Also available on Amazon
Dear Katy, Tough Conversations with Kids (3-min video)
Optional:
Miriam Grossman, M.D., You’re Teaching My Child What? Ch.3 (Downloadable behind the leader login.)
Session 17
Sex Ed in the Schools
Family Watch International, The War on Children: Comprehensive Sexuality Education (10-min video)
Valerie Huber, “Sex Ed in America: How Yesterday’s Extremists Shaped Today’s Sex-Ed”
The CanaVox State and International Leaders, “Sex and Gender Ideology in New Jersey’s K-12 Curriculum”
Optional: What Can Parents Do?
Dear Katy, Evaluating Sex Ed Curricula (3-min video)
Ana Samuel, “Rebel Parenting in an Age of LGBTQ Overreach”
Family Research Council, Cathy Ruse, “Sex Education in Public Schools: Sexualization of Children and LGBT Indoctrination.” (Focus on pages 18-28, “Sex Politics In The Halls, In History Class, On The Calendar, In The Library,” and pages 31-39, “Protect Your Children – And Your Rights!”)
Further Resources
Infographic on Differences between Sexual Risk Avoidance vs Sexual Risk Reduction Curricula (Leaders may consider printing this one-page summary to distribute at the meeting.)
Minnesota Family Council, “Responding to the Transgender Issue: Parent Resource Guide.”
Child and Parental Rights Campaign, “Navigating the Transgender Landscape School Resource Guide: Free Download.”
Session 18
Pornography Updated!
Morgan Bennett, “The New Narcotic” Documents the addictive effects of pornography on the brain
Ran Gavrieli, Why I Stopped Watching Porn (15-minute TED talk video) Heads up: some of the material is explicit, especially from min 2:50-4:30.
Anonymous, “If You Don’t Believe that Porn Hurts Relationships, You Need to Read My Story.”
For Parents:
Ethics and Public Policy Center, Raising a Family in the Digital Age: A Technology Guide for Parents (Comprehensive guide to the current threats to children on today’s social media apps and digital technologies, as well as practical tools and filtering resources for parents.)
Abby Moore, “The Day My Kid Found Hardcore Porn on His Phone”
LDS365, What Should I Do When I See Pornography? For child audiences; to help teach them to be on the lookout for bad pictures and know how to protect themselves (5-min video)
Dear Katy, My Son Found Porn (3-min video)
Further Resources:
Fight The New Drug, “Get Help: Don’t Fight This Alone” (Resources to fight porn; articles and videos based on personal stories and scientific research that show the harmful effects of porn on individuals, relationships, and society.)
Session 19
Transgender Identity
Paul McHugh, “Transgenderism: A Pathogenic Meme” A Johns Hopkins psychiatrist explains why it was a mistake to allow sex reassignment surgery at his hospital.
Lindsay Leigh Bentley, “I am Ryland: The Story of a Male-Identifying little Girl who Didn’t Transition”
American College of Pediatricians, “Gender Ideology Harms Children”
Walt Heyer, “Here’s What Parents of Transgender Kids Need to Know”
Dear Katy, Transgender Talking Points for Kids (3-min video)
Optional:
Dr. Ana Samuel, Sex, Gender and Identity (38-min video; can be screened during reading group)
Session 20
Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria Updated!
Abigail Shrier, “Gender Ideology Run Amok”
Helena Kerschner, “By Any Other Name: The Story of My Transition and Detransition
Abigail Shrier, “Irreversible Damage” Excerpts, (Suggestions for parents to respond to the phenomenon of rising ROGD in teen girls)
VCPA, Sydney Wright Testimony (10-minute video. Could be screened at the meeting.)
Optional:
Jaime Reed, “I Thought I Was Saving Trans Kids. Now I’m Blowing the Whistle.”
Helena Kerschner, “Parent Question: Communicating With Someone Who Is Indoctrinated”
Session 21
Compassionate Responses to Infertility
BuzzFeed, Women Openly Share What It Feels Like to be Told You Can’t Have Kids (4-min video)
CanaVox, “Ethical Dilemmas of Assisted Reproductive Technology”
Garance Dore, “Late Bloomer” (Heads up: This essay has one unfortunate use of foul language.)
Dr. Gavin Puthoff, Mercy Clinic Fertility Services, NaPro Technology Benefits (2-min video explaining the NaPro Technology approach to infertility)
Mary Beth Cormier, “How Our Marriage Overcame our Struggle With Infertility”
Optional:
Dear Katy, Risks of IVF (4-min video)
Rachel Gurevich, “What Not To Do When Supporting an Infertile Friend”
Session 22
Surrogacy
Google Baby (3.5-min video) This trailer shows the reality of the global surrogacy industry. India has since made its laws more restrictive, but this is a picture of how the industry operates in other poor countries.
Adeline Allen, “Surrogacy, Love, and Flourishing”
Linzie Janis and Chris Murphy, “I felt Like Someone Who Sold My Child: When Women Regret Being Surrogates” (7-min video and text) Personal testimony of a surrogate with commentary
Pick One:
Kajsa Ekis Ekman, “All surrogacy is exploitation – the world should follow Sweden’s ban.” Explanation of the reasons why Sweden banned surrogacy and a discussion of so-called altruistic surrogacy
Ross Douthat, “The Handmaids of Capitalism”
For Further Information:
Center for Bioethics and Culture, State by State Surrogacy Laws (Inform yourself of your state’s position on surrogacy.)
Center for Bioethics and Culture, “Three Things You Should Know About Surrogacy” Facts about risks to mother, costs to children, cost to society, all in one page with footnotes (like the fine print of a medical procedure)
Session 23
Communication in Marriage: Sexual Intimacy!
CanaVox, “CanaVox, Conversation Guidelines for Communication in Marriage Sexual Intimacy (2022)” (This reading may be found behind the leader login.)
Michele Weiner-Davis, The Sex-Starved Marriage (17-min video)
CanaVox, “CanaVox, The Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (2022)” (This reading may be found behind the leader login.)
Pick One:
Dear Katy, Too Tired (3-min video)
Project Manhood, Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (3-min video)
Session 24
Adoption
Christopher Tollefsen, “Couples Who Adopt are ‘Real Parents'” (Excerpts)
Lesli Johnson, “10 Things Adoptees Want You to Know”
Katy Faust, “Third Party Reproduction vs. Adoption: There’s a Big Difference” (text) or Audio Recording (14-min podcast)
Pick One:
I Lived on Parker Avenue (30-min video)
Sarah Spain, “Runs in the Family” (15-min reading) and How a Biological Son Found his Family (5-min video)
Session 25
Religious Liberty
Ryan Anderson, What is Religious Freedom? (2-min video)
The Berkley Center for Religion, Peace and World Affairs, “Religious Freedom: A Conversation with Rick Warren, Robert P. George and John DiIulio” (Excerpts)
The Heritage Foundation, “What You Need to Know About Religious Freedom: Questions & Answers Driving the Debate”
Pick One:
Alliance Defending Freedom, Atlanta Fire Chief Kelvin Cochran
Alliance Defending Freedom, Jack Phillips, Masterpiece Cake Shop
Alliance Defending Freedom, New Hope Family Services Adoption Agency
Optional:
The Witherspoon Institute Task Force on International Religious Freedom, Religious Freedom: Why Now? Defending an Embattled Human Right, Ch.1 (Text) or Audio Recording (min. 31:32 – 54:39)
Session 26
The Magnificence of Marriage
Humanum, The Destiny of Humanity: On the Meaning of Marriage (16-min video; choose English subtitles)
Doug Mainwaring, “Your Marriage: You Have No Idea of the Good You Are Doing”
Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, The Love that Brings New Life Into the World The former Chief Rabbi of the United Kingdom traces seven key moments in the world’s history of marriage. (31-min video)
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